Codependency
Therapy for codependency and over-giving—learning how to care for others without losing yourself
When Caring Turns Into Carrying
You know that feeling of constantly giving, fixing, or stepping in—almost on autopilot—even when you’re exhausted? That kind of nonstop over-functioning is often rooted in codependency.
Codependency generally means you focus so much on the happiness of others that you ignore yourself. You start to measure your worth by how useful, needed, or accommodating you can be. It sounds noble, right? Except over time, that “selfless” energy starts to cost you—your time, your mental health, and your sense of self.
To add salt in the wound, contrary to what the movies would have you believe, codependency isn’t just one partner leeching off the other in a rom-com. It shows up everywhere: friendships, parent-child relationships, even at work.
Patterns You Might Notice
If this resonates, you might recognize these, too:
You can’t say “no,” even when you desperately want to.
You feel responsible for everyone else’s feelings.
You hold yourself to impossible standards.
You struggle with boundaries, low self-esteem, or self-denial.
You try to control people or situations.
Sound familiar?
The longer this goes on, the more likely you are to push away your own needs—and ironically, start pushing away people you care about. Because here’s the thing: no matter how hard you try to keep everyone else afloat, resentment eventually creeps in.
If you’re nodding (or sighing) as you read this, you’re not alone—and you’re probably more exhausted than you realize.
A Way Forward (You’re Not Doomed to Keep Doing This)
Just because you’re stuck in these patterns doesn’t mean they’re permanent. With the right kind of therapy, you can start prioritizing yourself (without feeling guilty about doing so).
Working together means slowing down long enough to examine the thoughts and emotions that drive these codependent behaviors. Often, there’s an underlying belief running the show—something like, “If I don’t fix this, I’m worthless,” or, “If they’re upset, I’ve failed.”
In therapy, we’ll start questioning those scripts and replacing them with ones that actually serve you. You’ll unpack the identity that’s been built around being the helper, the savior, the fixer. You’ll learn what healthy boundaries really look like.
We’ll practice self-care that’s more than the occasional “treat myself to ice cream” moment. We’ll identify activities that respect your limits and prioritize your peace. Over time, you’ll start building relationships that feel mutual and balanced, where you’re appreciated for who you are, not just what you do for others.
Why Therapy Helps
Codependency is deeply relational, which means it often takes another relationship—a therapeutic one—to help untangle it. Therapy gives you a space where you don’t have to perform, please, or fix anything. It’s a place to experiment with what it feels like to be cared for, challenged, and supported all at once.
Through this process, you can begin to redefine what “being there for people” really means. You’ll find that you can care deeply and still hold onto your own identity. You can support others without carrying them. And you can love without abandoning yourself.
My Process
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Schedule Your Free Consultation Call
Start by filling out the contact form using the button below. I’ll follow up via email with a link to my calendar so you can choose a time that works for you. During our 20-minute phone call, we’ll discuss your goals, I’ll ask a few background questions to assess fit, and you’ll have a chance to ask me anything you'd like about the therapy process.
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Begin with a Personalized First Session
If we’re a good fit, we’ll schedule your first full session. This session is all about gathering the information I need to understand your background, concerns, and goals. Together, we’ll develop a treatment plan that’s tailored to your needs and preferences, setting the foundation for our work together.
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Ongoing Sessions Focused on Your Goals
In follow-up sessions, we’ll begin working toward the goals we identified using the therapeutic approaches we agreed upon. I typically recommend weekly sessions at first to build momentum and recognize patterns, but I’ll always collaborate with you to find a rhythm that fits your life.
The Bottom Line
You don’t have to keep being the one everyone leans on. Therapy can help you create relationships grounded in mutual support where you feel seen, valued, and understood. Because you deserve connection that doesn’t require self-sacrifice. And you deserve to take up space in your own life.
Ready to Stop Carrying Everyone Else’s Emotions?
If you’re tired of living life in constant overdrive—always helping, fixing, managing, or smoothing things over for others—it might be time for something different. Therapy for codependency can help you reclaim your time, your energy, and your sense of self.
Let’s work together to build relationships that feel balanced and nourishing, where caring for others doesn’t come at the expense of caring for yourself.
Schedule a consultation to start your path toward healthy connection and genuine self-worth. You’ve spent long enough prioritizing others. Let’s start putting you first.