Codependency
Therapy for codependency and over-giving: learning how to care for others without losing yourself
The Quiet Weight of Codependency
It often starts with good intentions. You give, fix, and step in (sometimes on autopilot) until caring begins to feel exhausting instead of fulfilling.
Codependency develops when your focus shifts so fully to others that your own needs fade into the background. You may start measuring your worth by how helpful or accommodating you are. What looks like selflessness on the outside can slowly drain your energy, mental health, and sense of self.
This pattern isn’t limited to romantic relationships. It can show up with family, friends, or at work — anywhere you feel responsible for other people’s emotions or outcomes. Over time, resentment and disconnection can creep in, even toward people you care deeply about.
If this feels familiar, you’re not alone, and you’re likely carrying more than you realize. The good news is that caring doesn’t have to feel this heavy. There is another way to be connected without losing yourself.
You can’t say “no,” even when you desperately want to.
When Caring Turns Into Carrying
Codependency often shows up as:
You feel responsible for everyone else’s feelings.
You hold yourself to impossible standards.
You struggle with boundaries, low self-esteem, or self-denial.
You try to control people or situations.
You Don’t Have to Untangle This Alone
Codependency is deeply relational, which means it often takes another relationship—a therapeutic one—to begin untangling it. Therapy offers a space where you don’t have to perform, please, or fix anything. Instead, you’re supported, challenged, and cared for—without conditions.
Through this process, you can begin to redefine what it means to care for others. You’ll learn how to stay connected without losing yourself, support without over-carrying, and love without self-abandonment.
What Changes as Codependency Heals
Just because you’re stuck in these patterns doesn’t mean they’re permanent. With the right kind of therapy, you can start:
Choosing yourself without feeling selfish or guilty
Slowing down to understand the emotions and patterns beneath over-giving
Questioning old scripts and replacing them with ones that actually serve you
Letting go of the pressure to be the helper, fixer, or savior
Practicing boundaries and self-care that support your peace
Over time, you’ll begin building relationships that feel mutual and balanced—where care flows both ways.
My Process
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Schedule Your Free Consultation Call
Start by filling out the contact form using the button below. I’ll follow up via email with a link to my calendar so you can choose a time that works for you. During our 20-minute phone call, we’ll discuss your goals, I’ll ask a few background questions to assess fit, and you’ll have a chance to ask me anything you'd like about the therapy process.
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Begin with a Personalized First Session
If we’re a good fit, we’ll schedule your first full session. This session is all about gathering the information I need to understand your background, concerns, and goals. Together, we’ll develop a treatment plan that’s tailored to your needs and preferences, setting the foundation for our work together.
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Ongoing Sessions Focused on Your Goals
In follow-up sessions, we’ll begin working toward the goals we identified using the therapeutic approaches we agreed upon. I typically recommend weekly sessions at first to build momentum and recognize patterns, but I’ll always collaborate with you to find a rhythm that fits your life.
The Bottom Line
You don’t have to keep being the one everyone leans on. Therapy can help you create relationships grounded in mutual support where you feel seen, valued, and understood. Because you deserve connection that doesn’t require self-sacrifice. And you deserve to take up space in your own life.
Don’t just take my word for it
“Dr. Rachel is so professional, accomplished, and down to earth. She uses her clinical training to create the perfect combination for her client’s success. She is an amazing speaker & workshop leader who helps others navigate life’s transitions, big or small. I feel so honored to have worked with Dr. Rachel in a professional capacity.”
Ready to Stop Carrying Everyone Else’s Emotions?
If you’re tired of living life in constant overdrive—always helping, fixing, managing, or smoothing things over for others—it might be time for something different. Therapy for codependency can help you reclaim your time, your energy, and your sense of self.
Let’s work together to build relationships that feel balanced and nourishing, where caring for others doesn’t come at the expense of caring for yourself.
Schedule a consultation to start your path toward healthy connection and genuine self-worth. You’ve spent long enough prioritizing others. Let’s start putting you first.