Perfectionism Counseling
Therapy for perfectionists who are tired of never feeling good enough
The Perfectionism Trap
You know the drill: you send an email and then you check it. Again. Then you hover over “send,” wondering if maybe the subject line could be sharper, the wording more eloquent, the spacing in that last paragraph just right. You tell yourself you’re just being thorough, but really, you’re avoiding the possibility that someone might find a flaw. Sound familiar?
That’s how perfectionism sneaks in—disguised as diligence, wrapped in responsibility. But underneath the polished surface is a constant hum of anxiety and the fear that no matter how much you do, it’s never quite enough.
When “Good Enough” Never Feels Good Enough
And it’s not just your inbox. Once perfectionism shows up, it shows up everywhere (like glitter leftover from last year’s birthday card). It shows up in relationships, work, and parenting—wherever expectations meet reality and reality throws a curveball.
In romance, it might look like overanalyzing every text you send, replaying conversations to make sure you didn’t sound awkward, or worrying that your partner, friends, or coworkers secretly think less of you. (Spoiler alert: they probably don’t.)
Parenting? Same story, different script. The drive to be the “perfect” mom or dad can mean constant guilt, comparison, and self-doubt. You read the books, follow the advice, and still feel like you’re somehow failing.
Eventually the pressure builds, your self-worth ties itself to everything being flawless, and you’re left exhausted, frustrated, and maybe even resentful.
What Perfectionism Can Actually Look Like
Because perfectionism can show up for different reasons and in different ways, it rarely looks the same for everyone. For some, it’s about control. For others, it’s about approval. But the theme is the same: “If I can just get it right, maybe I’ll finally feel okay.”
Here are a few of the most common ways perfectionism can take over your day-to-day life:
Preoccupation with how others view you
Checking and re-checking behaviors
Frequent research and gathering opinions before making a big decision
Needing reassurance from others
Disappointment when something goes “wrong”
Frustration when someone does something differently than you
Extremely critical statements, either seriously or sarcastically, about yourself or others
Feeling paralyzed and/or overwhelmed
Fear of failure or regret
If you’re nodding along to more than a few of these, you’re not alone—and you’re definitely not broken. You’re just stuck in a loop that therapy can help you untangle.
The Lie Perfectionism Tells
Perfectionism is sneaky. It convinces you that if you can just get it all right, you’ll finally relax. But instead of feeling calm and confident, you end up tense, drained, and quietly resentful that no amount of effort ever feels like enough.
Because here’s the brutal truth: perfectionism doesn’t save you. It hijacks you.
You Can Get Off the Hamster Wheel
Here’s the good part: you can stop the rat race. With targeted perfectionism counseling, you can begin to shift from “must be perfect” to “good enough”. And that might be the best dang gift you can give yourself.
There actually is a difference between high standards and perfectionism. “Perfect” does not exist. It never has and it never will. That realization, when fully embraced? BIG. And freeing. Because when you stop chasing unreachable standards, you start to reclaim your inner peace.
How Therapy Helps You Let Go of Perfectionism
Therapy with me will help you:
Build practical tools to help you think differently about yourself, others, and your situations (because your thoughts + feelings = your actions).
Dig into the deeper stuff beneath the surface—those low self-worth or critical self-views that fuel perfectionistic habits in the first place.
You’ll move toward stronger self-esteem, less fear of failure, and fewer critical statements. In short: you’ll build control instead of being controlled by your thoughts and stress.
And yes, you might laugh at some of the absurdity of your standards along the way (because, seriously, that’s therapy).
My Process
01.
Schedule Your Free Consultation Call
Start by filling out the contact form using the button below. I’ll follow up via email with a link to my calendar so you can choose a time that works for you. During our 20-minute phone call, we’ll discuss your goals, I’ll ask a few background questions to assess fit, and you’ll have a chance to ask me anything you'd like about the therapy process.
02.
Begin with a Personalized First Session
If we’re a good fit, we’ll schedule your first full session. This session is all about gathering the information I need to understand your background, concerns, and goals. Together, we’ll develop a treatment plan that’s tailored to your needs and preferences, setting the foundation for our work together.
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Ongoing Sessions Focused on Your Goals
In follow-up sessions, we’ll begin working toward the goals we identified using the therapeutic approaches we agreed upon. I typically recommend weekly sessions at first to build momentum and recognize patterns, but I’ll always collaborate with you to find a rhythm that fits your life.
Ready to Step Off the Perfectionism Treadmill?
If you’re tired of living life at a constant 110%, therapy can help you find balance, ease, and a more realistic relationship with your expectations.
You don’t have to keep chasing impossible standards to feel worthy—you just have to take the first step toward change.
Reach out today to schedule a consultation and start building a life that feels more calm, confident, and (finally) enough.